There's one of those "Take fifteen people on your flist and write comments about them" memes going about, where you write things, unaddressed to specific people, that you can say because you're not saying who it's TO. A lot if it is...not exactly hurtful, but I hate guessing things like "OMG, is this person saying they'd like to defriend me, but they don't have the balls to say it to me, or just to defriend me?" I mean, I haven't seen anyone say "I HATE YOU AND WANT YOU TO DIE!", so I wouldn't say it's actually hurtful stuff.

But it's indecisive stuff, and when you're as paranoid and defensive as me, you start thinking that all this "I'd defriend you if I had the balls" stuff is directed at you.