If you go to post five, the picture with the baby's face was something I thought was said about me - it was in the right time frame to be someone who might be frustrated in dealing with me and really, the shoe fits (I made an effort to be happier in my journal after that), but it was hosted on stele3's site, and the person I thought did it isn't even friended to her (which doesn't mean anything, since stele3 uses IJ, but it's a reasonable first step since the person in question namedrops a lot of other people and never her, so...I wouldn't host an image on my website for someone I wasn't super close to, especially if I knew it wasn't going to be anonymised).
Then I decided that everyone could cram it and I wasn't going to care, it was my journal, and if someone doesn't like it, why would they read it?
But it's shit like that that TOTALLY keeps me from commenting (that and my inexorable ability to make a complete ass of myself). I want to remain small time here. I don't write (not that I likely would anyway) and I don't plan for that to change. I can see wanting to write (and I want to read what you write, for definite) but the moment the anonymous comes on the bitch comes out in this fandom. I pretty much think that bandom (and HP before that, but at least that had a reasonable leaven of guys; there's ONE person in bandom that I would peg as possibly male and even THEN) is really anti-woman, and when we can't go attack the girlfriends/wives/random hookups of the bands, we'll pull the knives on each other. I can't get over how many bandomsecrets contain some version of "you wouldn't like me if I told you what I REALLY think" because, of course, shipping someone other than your friend's OTP is totally punishable by death. And then there's the nastiness to anyone who's at all BNF - so fucking what, if you don't like it, really, no one is making you read it, I promise.
All of which is my way of nattering on about how I want to do a post about how negative and anti-woman fandom can be, particularly this one, but a) who'll read it - not many people who it would apply to - and b) like it hasn't been said before, so c) do I want to break cover for it?
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Date: 2008-04-03 09:26 pm (UTC)Then I decided that everyone could cram it and I wasn't going to care, it was my journal, and if someone doesn't like it, why would they read it?
But it's shit like that that TOTALLY keeps me from commenting (that and my inexorable ability to make a complete ass of myself). I want to remain small time here. I don't write (not that I likely would anyway) and I don't plan for that to change. I can see wanting to write (and I want to read what you write, for definite) but the moment the anonymous comes on the bitch comes out in this fandom. I pretty much think that bandom (and HP before that, but at least that had a reasonable leaven of guys; there's ONE person in bandom that I would peg as possibly male and even THEN) is really anti-woman, and when we can't go attack the girlfriends/wives/random hookups of the bands, we'll pull the knives on each other. I can't get over how many bandomsecrets contain some version of "you wouldn't like me if I told you what I REALLY think" because, of course, shipping someone other than your friend's OTP is totally punishable by death. And then there's the nastiness to anyone who's at all BNF - so fucking what, if you don't like it, really, no one is making you read it, I promise.
All of which is my way of nattering on about how I want to do a post about how negative and anti-woman fandom can be, particularly this one, but a) who'll read it - not many people who it would apply to - and b) like it hasn't been said before, so c) do I want to break cover for it?
Jury is still out on that one.